Thursday, January 9, 2014

Can Couples Become Happy?

The romantic in me says yes.  The skeptic reads this list of 10 learned behaviors and sees lots of work.  Who wins?

No, seriously, a relationship keeps not score of who wins but, ideally, has 2 humans growing closer together, with all the follies that entails.

You just gotta make a decision and go for it, and cultivate habit laaughing with your partner like Bonnie and Bruce--laugh at yourselves, laugh at them, laugh at the whole frackng world.

[5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

....Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behavior that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behavior to become a habit. So select one of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit…and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.]
http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/10-habits-happy-couples


Free, 1970


PS: People in wheelchairs can make decent partners; we's peoples too.

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